I feel like I haven’t been able to write a post about parenting in quite a while. As I was reflecting this week, I realized it’s because I have been struggling with parenting myself.
Parenting is not easy! My son is 3 years old and we’re going through a tough phase right now.
Sometimes you read all about the best techniques on how to deal with their tantrums and emotions. Then, when it comes to practicing them, not one single tip works for the situation you’re in with your child. It’s hard. It can be really hard.
It can be frustrating.
With all this going on, I was thinking “how the heck can I blog about parenting when I’m having such a hard time parenting, myself? How can I share tips with other parents if I feel so lost right now?”
The shocking truth about parenting is that there’s no perfect parent
That’s when it hit me… I didn’t start the blog to show how perfect of a parent I am because the truth is I’m not. No one is. The shocking truth about parenting is that there is no perfect parent.
I started the blog to create a safe place, a safe little corner of the internet where moms and dads could come together and feel encouraged. Where moms and dads could come together and share their experiences, concerns, questions, and grow with each other.
Maybe right now you’re going through a rough patch, just like I am.
Maybe all you need to hear right now is not one more technique that promises to end the root of all tantrums.
It’s that you’re not the only one who feels like you’re failing. I feel like I’m failing too. Not just today. I often feel like I’m failing.
Then, I remember I’m enough.
So, right now I wanna remind you that you’re enough because you are! You give your best, you put your heart and soul into raising that tiny little human of yours (who might not even be so tiny anymore). God gave them to you because He knows you can do it, and He gave you to them, because they need you, not anybody else!
It’s just that there’s no manual, no guide that will work for all parents and all children. We have to figure it all out as we go. There are tools that will help us out, but there’s no perfect formula.
We need to keep encouraging each other
As I said, the truth about parenting is that there’s no perfect parent. The truth about parenting is that parenting is hard and the only way we can do it successfully is if we have each other’s backs… If we support each other!
Today, I realized that I don’t have to share only what works for me, only the positive results I achieved with my way of parenting. Yes, these are good things to share, these are helpful tips (like the super explanatory post on How to Potty Train).
However, being vulnerable and opening up about the not-so-fascinating part of parenting is also a way to help. We can’t feel like we are the only ones who don’t have it all together.
We can’t feel like we’re the only ones who have no idea of what to do when our kids decide to disobey or disrespect us.
Many times we’re caught by surprise when we’re most stressed out about some horrible news we just received. Or when we’re exhausted from waking up several times in the middle of the night to feed the newborn baby.
Today, I commit to you. I commit to sharing the challenges of parenting too. I commit to sharing encouragement in the form of empathy. I also commit to sharing the times when I feel like I can’t do it.
Are you going through a rough patch in parenting right now? Let it out in the comments and let’s support each other, because…
The truth about parenting is that we can’t do it alone!