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February 19

The One Trick You Need to Learn to Stop Saying No to Your Kid All The Time

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Saying no is a much necessary part of parenting, but saying no all the time can get pretty annoying not only for the child but also for you. It can get in the way of your relationship. And nobody wants that! Here, you’ll learn the one trick that can help you stop doing that all the time.

First, I just want to make very clear that there’s no way you’re going to stop saying no to your child for good. If you want them to become respectful and responsible adults, that’s gonna have to happen every. single. day.The Simple Trick You Need to Learn to Stop Saying No to Your Child All The Time

But sometimes we use the word “no” even when we don’t have to. And I didn’t realize that until later in the game of parenting.

I’m pretty sure a lot of parents didn’t realize it yet.

There are other ways which you can use to teach your child the same message you would teach if you said “no”.



The simple trick you need to learn to stop saying no to your child all the time

It’s called: redirecting.

Instead of saying no to your child all the time, simply redirect them to a more appropriate venue or time.

What? What does that even mean?

Hold on. Please, bear with me. Everything will make a lot more sense once I give out some examples.

Redirecting them to an appropriate venue

Redirecting, in this case, doesn’t mean you’re going to physically redirect your child to another venue.

It just means you’re going to redirect their brain to another venue where it would be appropriate to act the way they’re acting now.

For example, let’s say you’re inside your home with your child and they’re throwing a baseball with all the strength they have to the point of almost breaking your decor, furniture or windows. Ohhhh, we don’t want that. Do we?

Your first instinct in this situation could be to say something along the lines of:

  • No, stop it!
  • Knock it off!
  • Stop this right now!

Instead of having a negative reaction right away, you can tell them how cool it is to play baseball and explain that it’s appropriate to do so in a park, but not in your living room.

Redirect that activity to another venue in their brain.

Teach them that it’s ok to play with the baseball in the park, just not inside the house. Redirect instead of rebuking.


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Redirecting them to the appropriate time

It’s Wednesday afternoon and your child wants to go to Church. This happens a lot in our home and this is why I chose this example for this type of redirection.

Instead of saying No, we can’t go to Church right now.

Explain it to them that Church is amazing and that it’s a great thing to do, just not today, because there’s no one at Church.

It might be a totally different situation in your case, but you get the point, right? Substitute the word no, for an explanation of what would be a better time for that specific wish of your child, redirecting them to the correct time.

Always making sure to tell them that what they meant is a real possibility, just at a different time.


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A pply the trick to almost everything else in your child’s life!

This simple trick can not only be applied for venue or time but it can also be used for words, activities, age, and a bunch of other stuff.

It might seem extremely simple, but once you start using it, you’ll notice that your relationship with your child can suffer a lot less if you avoid using the word no so much. Even when you actually mean NO.

Now, please share with us down in the comment section if you’ve ever used this trick unconsciously or if you’ve never had this idea! If you’ve been redirecting your child, how do you do it? In what circumstances? We’re dying to know over here, mama! 

 

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  1. Laura Oka says

    February 20 at 3:38 am

    Yes, this is great stuff! I am going to try this with my daughter. She already seems's sick of hearing the word 'no'!
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    • isabelfreitasblog says

      February 21 at 4:05 am

      Thank you! I'm really glad you find it useful. This is my main goal with everything I post here. Hopefully, it works for you and your daughter in some way! Happy Tuesday :)
      Reply
  2. Alyssa says

    October 23 at 7:44 pm

    Hi, I love this tip and do try to do/say things like this innresoinse to my kiddos in most cases. I am most challenged when they are hurting or teasing each other. Do you have advice for these circumstances? Thanks! Alyssa
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    • isabelfreitasblog says

      October 24 at 9:14 am

      Hey Alyssa! Redirecting is a great way to get them to understand why something can't be done now or here and not be so mad at us! I love when I remember doing so. :) Man... I couldn't relate to you more! I feel super challenged when my two boys are not getting along well. I haven't found a go-to answer to that yet, but I try to explain to them to be nice and kind to each other and if for some reason they can't sort it out on their own, to come to us before pushing or yelling. I will look for resources on this topic and see what I can find. Great question. Would you have any piece of advice for me?
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