Have you ever thought about the fact that you’re influencing people every day, whether you realize it or not? Since you’re influencing them anyway, why not be intentional about it and become a positive godly influence on others?
All day every day you have interactions with other people. Even if it’s in a grocery store or at a gas station. There are also people who you see constantly, for example at work or at the gym. You talk to them every day, you discuss life situations and events. Yet, you’re not being intentional about influencing them in a positive godly way.
What if you could be intentional about every single interaction you have with others? What if you were being extremely intentional even when you’re writing thank you notes or birthday cards?
What if by being intentional you were making an everlasting impact on that other person’s life? What if they could have a turnaround moment in their life just because of a simple thing you said? Wouldn’t you want that?
The thing is, you have the power to. Or much better said, God, has the power to do it through you. All you need to do is to be open to the movement of God in your life.
There are 4 things you need to know to start having this amazing positive godly influence on others, though.
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To be a positive godly influence on others, you need to know this:
#1. You were made to bear fruits
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Genesis 1:27,28
God created us to bear fruit or as you can find in the dictionary, to yield positive results. He created each of us full of purpose and meaning. One of those purposes is to make things better.
“The world is broken; life is indeed difficult. But the larger reality is that God made us and all of creation to flourish, and he gave us the privilege and responsibility to work towards this…even after the fall.” As Christian author Dwight Vogt says in his book, Made to Flourish.
God’s original design for us was always that we could bear fruit, flourish. This includes influencing others in a positive godly way. This includes helping friends and family make positive decisions, see themselves as a worthy son/daughter of God. Like God himself sees them.
#2. You will only be fruitful if you’re connected to Him
I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me, you can do nothing. John 15:5
For it is the Spirit of the Lord that gives us strength, wisdom, discernment, and everything we need to yield positive results. It is the word of God that instructs us and gives us the faith to believe all things are possible in Him.
I’ve had this experience many times. When I devote time to my relationship with the Lord, great things happen through me, because I’m connected to Him. But when I start thinking that my time is better spent elsewhere, I start seeing things falling apart. Everything I do, I can do it through Him and not through my own strength.
How can I do something through Him if I’m not connected to Him?
One of the best ways you can connect with God is through praying. And the best way of praying I learned, was one that instructs me to yield at the end of the prayer. Yield so that God can speak to me. Often times, we ask, and ask, we thank Him, we praise Him, and then we leave. We forget to take the time to hear from Him.
When I stop, yield, and let Him speak to me, I hear from Him. And you know what? That is the best part of my prayer.
Here are the four elements of this way of praying:
I don’t know who invented it, but it has for sure made a huge impact on my time with God and the way I connect with Him. I no longer participate in a monologue, but I have a true conversation with Him.
How would you feel if a friend of yours talked, talked, and talked and left before you could even say a word to him? That would be a little weird, wouldn’t it?
#3. Trust in Him, not you
Do you feel inadequate to influence others? Do you sometimes feel like you’re not the right person to influence others because you are not perfect?
Look at what Elizabeth Elliot said:
“If we demand perfect role models, we will have, except for the Son of Man Himself, none at all.”
Isn’t this the absolute truth? The pastor that preaches on Sunday is not perfect. The famous speaker you hear on the radio or watch on TV is not perfect, the disciples were not perfect. But you know what they all have in common? They love God and his word and they follow Him.
Your mistakes, your struggles, they are all opportunities for God to manifest in your life. They’re all opportunities for you to learn something and point your friends and family to God. They’re all going to become tools so you can influence others in a positive godly way. They will keep bringing you closer to God like it did with me this one time.
#4. Use the unplanned opportunities to make an impact
Or as Carol Kent (author of Becoming a Woman of Influence) calls them, impact moments. Impact moments are everyday events and interruptions that you can use to impact and teach other people.
You don’t need to set up studies or meeting to teach other people the word of God. To teach other people how they can be more like Him.
Whatever it is that you’re doing with them, almost always, you will have an opportunity to share the word of God. Whether it is a problem they’re going through, a situation you see on the way to the coffee shop, or a huge blessing that happens to you (or them), these can all be “impact moments” if you choose to be intentional.
Start paying attention to the things that happen around you, start noticing the opportunities you have to make an impactful change in someone’s life. It doesn’t need to look big or impossible. It can be as simple as taking the time to write an intentional thank you note. It can be as simple as truly encouraging someone when they’re down.
You, as a part of this huge society we live in, can make a big difference through small intentional interactions with others. If you apply these four elements we went through today, you’ll be able to become a positive godly influence on other people’s lives.
And again, who wouldn’t wanna be the one who helped make an everlasting impact on someone else’s life?
Now, I’d love to hear (read) down in the comment section if you’ve ever had an impact moment in your life, where someone said or did something that changed your life forever! Or maybe it didn’t change your life, but it changed your perspective!