Knowing you love your husband is one thing. Letting him know that on a daily basis is another. Here are 15 simple ways you can show your husband you love him! Ideas can never be too many, right?
Marriage is one of the most beautiful relationships in the world. It’s an intentional choice a man and a woman make to love each other forever. To love each other despite the circumstances, despite the problems and difficulties life throws at them.
Marriage is an intentional choice to be a friend, partner, lover, supporter, encourager, even on the hardest days.
Marriage is an intentional choice to love.
Now, while you know with all the certainty in the world that you love your husband more than anything, the fact that you know it, doesn’t automatically show him that you do.
He is not in your heart or mind to know these things. The only way he can see and feel your love for him is when you show it!
Whether it is with actions or words, something needs to be done to communicate this love. Don’t worry…
It doesn’t need to be anything extravagant or expensive, it just needs to be thoughtful, and like the choice you made, very intentional!
How can you show your husband you love him?
There are tons of ways you can demonstrate your feelings for your husband. Today though, I would like to go all the way to the roots of love to extract some really meaningful ideas for you to do this! (And me, of course. Because I also want to show my husband I love him! ;))
In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, the Bible says:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (NLT)
In this passage, there are exactly 15 different characteristics of love. 15 different ways in which you can inspire yourself to show your husband you love him! And we’ll dive into each one of them, talking about practical ways we can exercise them in our daily lives!
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15 simple ways to show your husband you love him
In a recent video series, I watched with my Bible Study group, called The New Rules Of Love, Sex & Dating (you can find the book here), Pastor Andy Stanley teaches us to stop thinking about the way we want our future spouse to be.
We should instead reflect if we are the person the person we’re looking for is looking for. Do we have all the qualities that the person who’s looking for us would like to find in us? Are we ready for them?
I know he’s mainly talking to single people who haven’t found their spouse yet, but this can very well be applied to our marriages.
We have to strive to shape ourselves into the best person we can be for our spouse. We should be the ones to practice love in the 15 ways the Bible describes, which is what Pastor Staley emphasizes in his book and video series.
It was eye-opening to watch his series and I would totally recommend the book if you want to make your marriage even better!
Let’s take a look at the 15 simple ways to show your husband you love him.
Hint: You can start practicing them now!
#1. Love is patient
Be patient. Everyone makes mistakes and we’re all still learning, no matter how experienced we are. Put yourself in his shoes in every situation. Try to see things through his eyes before snapping at him. Be understanding.
#2. Love is kind
In times of anger, it’s easy to lose control and use words we normally don’t. Or to say things you normally wouldn’t because they are hurtful. Before letting the words out, think first: Are the words I’m about to say life-giving or life-taking?
#3. Love is not jealous
Oh… I know what you’re thinking: But I love my husband. How can I be jealous of him? I would never do that!!!
Let me ask you something. Have you ever listened to a story he told you and tried to one-up him unconsciously? Sometimes we do this several times during our week and we don’t even realize. I have tried to one-up people without even noticing it. Then later, when I reflected back on the conversation I had, I caught it.
Or maybe it’s not about that. Maybe you’re having such a difficult relationship with your kids, but your husband isn’t. He can talk to them and understand them. The kids listen to him, but not you. You not only feel sad that your relationship with your kids is not going well, but you also get upset that your husband doesn’t seem to have a problem with that.
Jealousy can sneak in disguised, unnoticed. Take a step back and reflect on your feelings. Evaluate the way you talk. Are you encouraging? Are you truly supportive? Or are you a little bit jealous?
Pray and lift it up to the Lord so He can help you get rid of those feelings.
#4. Love is not boastful
Sometimes we can feel like we’ve done a lot in our home, for our husband or for our kids. And most of the time, yes, we have done a lot! Or maybe you work out of the home and feel like you do a lot for your family. And again, yes you do!
God sees all of it. God sees every single thing you do for your family!
Boasting about it, showing excessive pride and self-satisfaction in those achievements is not going to contribute any tiny bit to the relationship between you and your husband. On the contrary, it tends to hurt it more than anything.
“Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” Colossians 3:23
#5. Love is not proud
I’ve lost count of how many times my husband and I spent longer than we wanted without talking to each other (just to make it really clear, it’s never more than a full day ;)).
Love is not proud. Doesn’t it feel a lot better when you put your pride aside and go talk to your husband so you can resolve whatever it is that’s been bothering both of you? Doesn’t it feel a lot better when you apologize for the mistakes you made and make it up? Doesn’t it feel a lot better when you forgive him for the mistakes he made?
Pride is like a stone in your heart.
#6. Love is not rude
Honor your husband by always showing respect and love in the way you treat him. In the way you talk to him.
#7. Love does not demand its own way
Love is not self-seeking.
Often times, I have argued with my husband so something could be done my own way. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to silent your voice to show love.
But most of the time, when I compromise on something, I realize my husband gets extremely happy, which in the end, makes me happy too! Bingo!
Love is not self-seeking. Sometimes, letting go of our own way can be a huge way of showing love to your spouse.
#8. Love is not easily angered
This means instead of responding with anger to anything your husband does that doesn’t go the way you expected, you take a deep breath. You think about all the other things he does that are amazing and you remember that you are also human and make mistakes all the time! Have grace towards your husband.
#9. Love keeps no record of being wronged
I catch myself talking to my husband about little mistakes he made, so many times! I don’t do it to cause arguments or to make him angry. I do it in a silly way, joking around, but at the end of the day, I’m still talking about it.
Even if you just joke about those little faults like I do, you’re showing your husband you keep a record of them.
How about this?
Let’s make a commitment to ourselves. Every time we realize we’re about to mention a mistake he made, let’s come up with words of affirmation instead. Let’s talk about good things he did. I’m sure you can find those!
#10. Love doesn’t rejoice about injustice (does not delight in evil)
You know the times when you’re so mad at your husband that you almost want something he really wants to go wrong? Obviously, I’m not talking about something fatal here. (LOL)
But let’s say you agreed with him he would go have fun with his friends on Saturday and you’d watch the kids. He made a mistake on Friday and now you’re still going to have to be extra nice to him and watch the kids so he can have fun with his friends.
At that point, you’re just wishing his friends will bail on him so he can be upset and have a terrible night.
Love does not delight in evil and if you love him so shouldn’t you! Even in the small things.
#11. Love rejoices whenever the truth wins out
Love rejoices when the truth of God wins out. Love rejoices in the virtues we practice and live out. When we seek to behave in a way that reflects the goodness of God.
When we bring this into our marriage, even when we don’t speak anything, love is being released to our loved ones! When we live out the truth of God, we’re exhaling love.
#12. Love never gives up
Even when things are hard and we seem to not be on the same page, ever… We don’t give up.
Even when it seems like he’s testing you, doing all the things he knows you can’t stand, you don’t give up because true love never does.
#13. Love never loses faith
Your relationship with your husband might be sinking, it might be in a very bad place, where you never thought it could reach… That’s when you exercise your faith and surrenders it all to God.
Don’t lose faith in your husband and don’t lose faith in God. Things will get better and both of you will overcome whatever situation you’re facing right now!
#14. Love is always hopeful
Even when everything tells you not to, have hope! Just do.
#15. Love endures through every circumstance
Love never dies. It doesn’t matter what happens. It just doesn’t.
I hope those 15 characteristics of love have inspired you to live them out and show your husband you love him in numerous selfless ways!
As a reminder, I have created a cheat sheet for you to hang on the fridge or on a wall in your house so you can always be reminded to practice them and love your husband not only in words but with selfless acts as well.
As always, thank you for reading and I hope this will contribute to an Amazing Family Life in your home. For more resources, you can also get access to my FREE resource library here.